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Interestingly, my children experienced your “closer to home” examples in their biological home. I’m out case, we did prepare ahead of time. We didn’t fully understand what was happening until we read Karyn Purvis, Basel Van Der Kolk and Deborah Gray etc. Even with that information, even with good support, even with tools we still struggle. We couldn’t keep our daughter safe at home despite knowing the “whys” of her behavior. My husband and I went through so much additional training and education we could give the lectures. We didn’t do the blanket training provided by DCF. We went strait to the experts and attended Dr. Seigal’s seminars and Heather Forbes’ classes. We did the eight week “Circle of Security.” We did it all. It doesn’t change the fact that our kids are violent. They are hurting. My point is that this kind of parenting is hard. It just is.
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I completely agree. They all have great-sounding ideas and programs but none have been a solution.
I’ve pulled some info from most of those sources as well as information from Ainsworth. What pieces did you find to be helpful (even a little)?
I need to start making a list of the things that actually seem to bring some improvement. Right now, I think the only thing that brings ACTUAL change for us is the twofold realization that we will never leave them AND that they want to stay. Our girl seems to have embraced both and is doing much better. Our guy…well, you know. The last four weeks have been better for him than the entire last year, and he seems to want to come home (this is new) so I’m hoping that maybe we’ll start an upswing. I’m always leery of celebrating (I’ll save that for when they move out of the house…if they’re doing well at that time, I think I’d feel okay to relax into knowing they made it. Until then, I’m not sure I’ll be able to stop waiting for regression.)
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So very true!
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Been keeping you in my prayers ! Hugs for strength, wisdom and endurance!
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